Past few months have been challenging as we enter another phase of her growth and emotional development.
Self-esteem is very important. Self-confidence is very important. Self-care is also very important. This also means loving yourself.
I find myself talking after listening more. I find myself counselling. I find myself using another type of patience.
This is a new learning curve for me and this time in the shoes called “MOM”. Not as a youth counsellor, not as a church sister or leader, not as a real life sister, not as a more matured friend, but as a mom. The whole ball game is very different. I always have these 3 words flashing across my mind each time a situation pops up : Handle With Care.
She is delicate and yet strong.
She is sensible and yet sensitive.
She is teachable and yet opinionated.
She is conscientious and yet absent-minded.
She is determined and yet perfectionist.
She has her very own learning curve and she knows it is getting more challenging and her feelings are more complicated now. She knows she has to learn to listen to herself first and at then, take in others’ words for reflection’s sake. Why ? So that she will not waver in her decisions and beliefs. She knows she need not be the same as others; do the same things, behave the same way, speak the same language and react the same way towards things, esp to get be accepted or be in the group.
Actually her learning curve is steeper than mine. I had mine. I was a “classic”. Ha ………
