I have lived 40 years on this earth by the Grace of God.
I had the privilege to live through a childhood and a young adulthood. The length of days we have on earth should not be thought as a given and taken for granted.
The very breath we take every second is God given. He gives life. He also decides when our days on earth are up. No one knows if he has another day, year or decade. We can only be prudent and plan as though we have the usual life expectancy.
That said, I had lived 40 years. Maybe, I will have another 40 years? I do not know.
My first 18 years were used as a student. 8 years were spent as a preschool educator and tutor. 14 years as a full time mother and part time teacher.
I know that should I only have one child, my life will be different. Should I not have a special needs second child, my life will also be different.
After I had given birth to Zoe, I thought that it would be ideal that I raise her personally till she enters preschool. Zane came along within 2 years and so I thought I would extend two more years for Zane’s sake. I thought 4-5 years as a full-time mom is already way too long to be away from the Preschool industry. I was doing very well at PPH back then and was the next in line to take over my Principal when she retired. I had plans to do my Early Childhood Diploma (a prerequisite), Degree and Masters. I wanted to be a professional in this field. I wanted to be a Principal and subsequently lectures and trains preschool educators. I thought I could get back on track after I have “settled” my young children.
My world changed and turned upside down. With my decade of training in preschool education, I cannot defeat autism. I cannot overcome the challenges which surfaced. I cannot cure my son despite all the therapies, early intervention programs and my full-time attention for him. I was defeated. I felt useless that I could not make my very own son normal when I could train classes afer classes of K2s in academic and character excellence.
I doubted my capabilities as a person. Yet, at the same time, I could not relinquish my mother’s role to a live in foreigner and get back to the working world. I cannot bring myself to do it. I was stuck. I chose to walk on for the elder child’s sake.
We walked and walked. Years passed. She has completed her primary education. I feel that my job is done. I am now 40. I am looking at my life again. We are still not taking in a domestic helper.
I am going back to school in 2014 ! I am accepted by UniSim to do my Degree. I have chosen not to do Early Childhood. Why? Many reasons behind this decision actually.
14 years as a stay home mom is enough.
I want my life back. I want to live again.
Thank You, God. Thank you, hubby for your support and encouragement. I will be brave and go through the next 4 years as a student with confidence.
This Christmas I will be shopping for my own schooling stuffs! yes !