奶奶說，生氣的時候不要吵架，可以不說話，不洗他衣服，但是，不要和他吵架。
奶奶說，和男人吵架了不要跑到外面去張揚，他向你邁進一步，你就向他走兩步。
奶奶說，家是女人的大本營，發生什麼事情都不要走。因為，回來的路很難。
奶奶說，兩個人在家不要老想著面子，兩個人過日子，面子很重要？那在外面怎麼生活？
奶奶說，不管一個男人多有錢，他還是希望可以看到乾乾淨淨的你在乾乾淨淨的家等他。
奶奶說，好男人很多，他不會去抱別的女人。但是這社會，很多壞女人會伸手去抱你的男人。
奶奶說，女人一定要出去工作，不管錢賺得多或是少，工作就是自己人生價值的體現。你一直在家，就讓男人有機會在你面前說：“是我在養你。”
奶奶說，你在外面工作，家裡的事情再忙也要做，不然就花錢請個工。家裡的事情一定要好好做，小孩也要好好教。
奶奶說，他為你做了意想不到的事情，你可以感動，可以誇獎，千萬不要嘲諷的說“太陽從西邊出來了”，如果這樣，也許以後他不會為你做任何事情。
奶奶說，誰都不是誰的另一半，你的想法不說出來誰會了解？需要什麼感受，討厭什麼事情，你告訴別人，別人才會懂。
奶奶說，他的父母也是你的父母，就算他的父母對你不是很好，你也要對他們好。因為他們是他的父母。
奶奶說，決定和什麼人在一起了，就不要去埋怨苦日子，既然你選擇了他，就不要去埋怨他。
奶奶說，那麼有錢有什麼用，人呢？人在哪裡？
奶奶說，我們這輩子能花多少錢？不要買什麼奢侈品，過得幸福就好。
奶奶說，不要唬小孩“ 媽媽不要你”，不要生氣地時候把小孩推出門，如果他真的不見了，你會很痛苦。
奶奶說，盡量不要打小孩，更不要在外面打。
奶奶說，什麼都是緣分。
奶奶說，生命無常，要好好珍惜每一天，珍惜自己的家庭。
奶奶說，她年輕的時候，她外婆總是教她怎麼做好一個女人。
奶奶和爺爺在一起有五十多年。她說，她是先結婚後戀愛的。
奶奶說，爺爺年輕的時候很窮，別人給他一顆糖，他都小心翼翼帶回來，拗一半給她吃。
奶奶說，她年輕的時候不懂什麼是好，覺得爺爺本來就應該這樣。
奶奶說，有一次有人想欺負爺爺，她生氣的衝過去拿掃把打人一頓。
她說的時候哈哈大笑，我感動得雙眼模糊……
(duwenzhang編輯)
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The only 2 things I disagree are : Women MUST work outside their homes for that is their measure of self-worth. If need be, get a domestic help for the house and at the same time, the children must be properly brought up too.
This granny must have been observing the changing trend in modern women, who (like her granddaughter) are highly educated and they must have degrees behind their backs. Thus, to work, is really a measure of self-worth. For the pay checks and that kind of work many a times give the women the sense of accomplishment, power of independence and perhaps also self-sufficience.
I disagree because how can a woman who holds a full-time job outside her home can have that much energy and time after work to raise her children properly? Only possible if she works very, very, very hard on her home front role too.
A typical working adult leaves home at 8am (latest) and comes home at 7pm(earliest). After dinner and bath, it will be 8pm. Even if the children go to bed at 11pm, she only has 3 short hours with her children. If the children are school going children, many a times, these mothers go through their homework or revise tests with them. The bulk of the 3hrs nightly is used on school stuffs. If the children are very young, they usually sleep early, so the mother only has an hour to play, talk, read and bond with the littles. If the children are big, they have their own agenda, they may just stay in their rooms and do their own stuffs, even when their mothers make time, maybe they are not keen to chat with them as their mothers are not around whenever they come home and they have exhausted their words limit for the day talking with friends or pc/iphones (smses counted).
The working mothers can employ domestic helpers. True. As the role implies, these helpers do the domestic affairs in the house. Children rearing and character building are still the mothers’ responsibilities. Who is the FIRST person every school teacher will call? The mother.
I do not want to ruffle the feathers of working mothers further. I know it is very challenging and energy sapping juggling work and children at the same time (I have not included the role as wives yet). I know in many households, double incomes are needed. Who won’t want more money to spend? Who won’t want to afford exotic family holidays every year? As long as the children are still the focus and they have the attention (quantity time) from you when you can. I am an advocate for children, which is why I feel strongly that young children should have enough nurturing from their own parents.
I read this quote of a lady whom I do not know. She puts it very simply and yet the truth is piercing.
“I have the privilege to serve my family full time since I gave birth to my first child. I thank my husband for being man and brave enough to allow me to stay home and serve the family, instead of giving my best to others if I was working.” – By E.N. , a stay at home mom
This quote speaks to me because when I work, I give my best to whom I am serving. So, I do ask myself, do I do more for my school, my students than I do for my own children and husband? If the equilibrium is tilted, I know it is time to focus on my own. I have always worked part-time when my elder two were young. I coincided my working hours with their schooling hours. Yet, I brought a lot of work home still, I worked after they slept till 2am and beyond at times. Self-worth? Definitely gained. I am a well-loved teacher, colleague and employee. However, I am giving that up for now. Maybe, when my children are grown and I really have the mornings free, then I will consider impacting and molding young lives again.
Finally, I thank my husband again. We made this decision together and we know it is the best for our children. The first person my daughter wants to see when she is dismissed from school is …. mommy ! 🙂
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